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Resiliency: How to make it your new superpower during divorce.

The 8 things resilient people have in common and tips on how you can strengthen your life in these areas for a healthy divorce!

Guest contributor: Terrie Reeves

What makes certain people rebound while others relapse, and what equips some people to snap back rather than snap during divorce? 


This courageous word when put into action gives you the capacity to cope with difficulty, persevere through adversity, and to recover quickly from challenges. So, what can you do to build stronger resiliency muscles? 

Research shows that resilience may be the new superpower. Check out these 8 things resilient people have in common and learn how you can strengthen your life in these areas.

  1. Self-aware

How can you improve your self-awareness skills?

  • Pause and breath
  • Be mindful and present in the moment
  • Connect to your thoughts/feelings/sensations
  • Ask questions for self-discovery and be curious  
  1. Self-regulate

How can you strengthen your self-regulation skills?  

  • Practice the 4 P Framework™ Before you react pause, process, pivot if needed, and proceed forward with greater intention
  • Know your triggers
  • Develop strategies to manage your stress
  • Be patient with yourself and others
  1. Self-care

How can you practice greater self-care?   

  • Make yourself a priority
  • Do activities that make you happy
  • Spend time with people you love
  • Move, fuel, rest and maintain your body
  1. Emotional Expression

How can you improve your ability to express yourself?

  • Notice how your emotions show up physically
  • Identify and name your emotions
  • Don’t hold your emotions in
  • Process and express your feelings
  1. Self-supportive

How can you practice being self-supportive?  

  • Be aware of your inner critic
  • Practice positive self-talk
  • Reframe your thinking – i.e. When things don’t go right, it is an opportunity to learn and grow.
  • Learn to hold 2 truths – i.e. I am struggling. This divorce is really hard on me right now.
    I am grateful for my support system, and I know I am strong and will get through this process.
  1. Optimism

How can you become more optimistic?  

  • Practice positive thinking
  • Train your brain to notice the positives
  • Envision a positive future state post divorce 
  • Look for the bright side in every situation
  1. Support System

How can you build and leverage your support system?   

  • Cultivate healthy relationships
  • Determine who you want in your inner circle  
  • Don’t view needing help as a weakness
  • Trust your tribe, ask for help, and know when to call in the calvary
  1. Sense of Purpose

How can you find your sense of purpose?   

  • Examine what gives your life meaning
  • Align your passion with your life’s purpose
  • Do the things that bring you joy with the people you love
  • Use your gifts to make a difference in the world

As you move through your divorce, don’t underestimate yourself or the importance of resiliency.

“When life gets tough lean into hope, trust yourself, flex your resiliency muscles and you will get to the other side”.  – Terrie Reeves

Make RESILIENCY your new superpower!


Clients may need additional support during their divorce. Claire Samuels Law, PLLC has curated a community of the best coaches, therapists and other wellness experts dedicated to supporting you through your divorce process and beyond.

Terrie Reeves, master coach and founder of Empower Health America is a part of this compassionate team of experts, ready to guide you through this difficult time.

Claire Samuels Law works with you every step of the way to provide the resources and experts you need to facilitate the healthiest process for you and your family.

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